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Question I work full-time every day, so all the money I earn I spend on clothes, shoes and cleaning materials, whilst my husband spends on rent, bills and some other things. I want to know what are the things my husband must spend on for me. For example, does he only have to clothe me if all my clothes are worn out? And my husband tells me: “If you want me to spend on you for everything, then you should stay home and not work.” Answer Praise be to Allah Firstly: In the answer to question no. 3054, we quoted sufficient evidence from the Quran and Sunnah, and scholarly consensus, to prove that it is obligatory for the husband to spend on his wife, according to his means, and that he does not have the right to make her pay for her own expenses, even if she is rich, except with her agreement. This spending on the wife’s maintenance includes everything having to do with her clothing, summer and winter. It does not mean that he has to do that every year or every season, even ...

Question I would like to know: 1- If during the time of Prophet, was there any such practice as putting a clause in the marriage contract that husband would not take any wives after this? Does this not amount to making a halal thing haram? 2- If a husband promises his wife that he would not take another wife, does he forego his right to take more wives? Please note that this promise is not a condition in the marriage contract but is done after few years of marriage. 3- If answer to question 2 is yes, then does it still hold if the husband made this promise under some pressure? 4- Would the husband be sinning if he breaks the promise made to first wife and goes ahead with the marriage?. Answer Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: If the wife stipulates that her husband should not take another wife, this is a valid condition and he must adhere to it; if he does take another wife, she has the right to annul the marriage contract. That is because of the report narrated by al-Bu...

Question If a muslim man has taken a muslim wife, and not fulfilled his obligations set forth by allah and the quran. As a result the muslim women leaves the deen, and now doesn't cover and maybe not even practicing islam anymore. My question is, what are the consciquences of their actions? Answer Praise be to Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allaah, but do that which they are commanded”[al-Tahreem 66:6] It was narrated from Ibn ‘Umar that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ameer (ruler) who governs the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of the members of his household and is r...

Question I would like to know my wife has gold jewellary which is given to her from mother but iam not well off and i am in dept also so how should i pay zakat on it. Answer Praise be to Allaah. The husband does not have to pay zakaah on the jewellery on his wife’s behalf, because the zakaah is only obligatory on the possessor of the wealth, and the possessor in this case is your wife, because she is the owner of the jewellery. So she has to pay zakaah on it, either from the jewellery itself or from its monetary value. If her husband or someone else pays zakaah on her behalf with her permission, that is o.k., and he will be rewarded for this voluntary action. If the wife wants to give the zakaah on her jewellery or anything else to her husband who is in debt and cannot pay it off or who is poor, there is nothing wrong with that, because it comes under the general meaning of the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “As-Sadaqaat (here it means Zakaah) are only for the Fu...

Question Can I have romance with my wife while she is in the state of inpurity (mens. and after child birth). Answer Praise be to Allaah. A man can be intimate with his wife when she is menstruating or in nifaas; this falls into three categories: 1 – Being intimate and having intercourse with her in the vagina. This is haraam according to the consensus of the Muslims and the text of the Qur’aan. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath)” [al-Baqarah 2:222] 2 – Being intimate by kissing, embracing, touching etc. parts that are above the navel and below the knee. This is permissible according to scholarly consensus. See Sharh Muslim by al-Nawawi, and al-Mughni, 1/414 3 – Bein...

Question My friend got divorced in this Ramzan and his wife was(is) 5 months pregnant as well . The reason for divorce was that his wife had boy friends before marriage and someone said that after marriage also she would meet her ex boy friends . On this reason he divorced her and under the influence of his parents. Now what i want to know is was that a right path , did it have Allah's Sanction to this deed ? what about the child who is in the womb ? What will happen to that baby and his/her future ? Answer Praise be to Allaah. What you have mentioned in the question covers a number of issues: 1 – What you have mentioned about your friend divorcing his wife during her pregnancy is valid according to the consensus of the scholars, because of the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar in al-Saheehayn, according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Tell him to take her back, then to divorce her when she is pure (not menstruating) or pregnant.” That in...

Question Is it permissible to shake hands with a paternal uncle’s wife if she is old, and if not shaking hands will provoke rancour and resentment, because that is the custom among relatives?. Answer Praise be to Allaah. It is haraam for a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman even if she is old. That is because of the general meaning of the evidence which states that it is forbidden.  Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: It is not permissible to shake hands with non-mahram women at all, whether they are young or old, and whether the man who is shaking hands is a young man or an old man, because of the danger of fitnah (temptation) that it poses to both parties. It was narrated in a saheeh hadeeth that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I do not shake hands with women.” And ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be ...

Question I have been married for approximately two years, and I have a daughter from my wife. I wanted some clarification about the conditions that must be fulfilled in order to complete divorce. For example, if the woman does not menstruate, and no intercourse has taken place since her last period, if the conditions are not met, can divorce be valid or not? Also, when a man divorces his wife, is it sufficient for him to say the word “talaaq (divorce)”, or is it essential for him to say: “I am giving you your divorce?” I have some problems with anger, which everyone who knows me is aware of. I am seeing my doctor about the anger. I said divorce [i.e., he said, “divorce” and did not say, for example, “you are divorced”] to my wife when we were arguing, and she was saying disrespectful things to me and asked me to divorce her. I said the word “divorce” when I was very angry, but after I came back to my senses, I regretted it. I did not really intend to divorce my wife. Now my wife ...

Question I have a question concerning fasting, during the fast is it permissable to say I love u to a husband, My husband asked me to say it during fast and I said to him that it is not permissable, he said it is allowed? Answer Praise be to Allaah. There is nothing wrong with a man playing with his wife, or a wife with her husband, by saying words while fasting, on the condition that there is no danger of either of them climaxing. If there is the danger that they may reach climax, as in the case of one who has strong desires and who fears that if he plays with his wife his fast may be broken by his ejaculating, then it is not permissible for him to do that, because he is exposing his fast to the risk of being broken. The same applies if he fears that he may emit prostatic fluid (madhiy). (al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 6/390). The evidence that it is permissible to kiss and play with one’s wife, if one is sure that there is no risk of reaching climax, is the report narrated by al-Bu...

Question A few questions here Who should you get married to Why should you get married to that person How to get married a second time Answer Praise be to Allah. As this world is a stage that leads to the hereafter, in which man is tested to see what he will do, so that he will be requited for it on the Day of Resurrection, what the wise Muslim must do is seek in this world everything that will help him to attain happiness and bliss in the hereafter. The most important help and support is righteous company. That begins with the Muslim society in which he lives, then with choosing pious friends, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined: “Do not keep company with anyone but a believer.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (4832); classed as hasan (good) by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami‘. Then finally he should choose a righteous wife who he hopes will be the best companion to help him attain eternal happiness in paradise with Allah, may He be glorified and exal...

Question If the wife do not pray regularly or do not fast or violate other obligatory act, will the husband be responsible for this on the day of judgement, will he be punished for that and what is his responsibility under above situation in this world? Answer Praise be to Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisa’ 4:34] This aayah states that the man is the guardian of the woman and is in charge of her. According to a saheeh hadeeth, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The man is the shepherd of the members of his household and is responsible for his flock. Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. So the man is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” The most important duty of the “shepherd” is to guide his “flock” to obey the commands...

Question what are a wife's rights on her husband according the Quran and Sunnah? or what are a husbands duties to his wife and viceversa? Answer Praise be to Allaah. Islam has enjoined upon the husband duties towards his wife, and vice versa, and among these duties are some which are shared by both husband and wife.  We will mention – by the help of Allaah – some of the texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah which have to do with the duties of the spouses towards one another, quoting also from the commentaries and views of the scholars.  Firstly:  The rights of the wife which are hers alone:  The wife has financial rights over her husband, which are the mahr (dowry), spending and accommodation.  And she has non-financial rights, such as fair division between co-wives, being treated in a decent and reasonable manner, and not being treated in a harmful way by her husband.  1.Financial rights  (a)The mahr (dowry). This is the money to w...

Question I often connect the issue of intimacy with my wife to Fajr prayer, meaning that we do that after the prayer, or we do ghusl before the time for prayer begins, because I know that she may be too lazy to pray, using the excuse of janaabah. Is this permissible, as I noticed that she is sometimes not happy with that? I have also noticed that my wife – may Allah bless her – only prays Fajr on the days when the children are going to the school, because the time when they leave for school is very close to the time of the prayer. But on holidays, or on Thursday and Friday, I noticed that she prays after the sun has risen. I have advised her a great deal about that, but with no response from her, except on rare occasions. What is the solution for that, may Allah bless you and benefit Islam and the Muslims through you? Answer Praise be to Allah. Firstly: There is nothing wrong with what you have mentioned about connecting intimacy to the time of Fajr, before or after the p...

Question Is it permissible for a man to sleep beside his wife in Ramadaan?. Answer Praise be to Allaah. Yes, that is permissible. In fact it is permissible for a man to be intimate with his wife when he is fasting, so long as no intercourse or ejaculation takes place. Al-Bukhaari (1927) and Muslim (1106) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to kiss and be intimate when fasting, and he was the most able of you to control his desire.” Al-Sindi said: The word yubaashir (translated here as “be intimate”) means touching the wife’s skin and her touching him, such as putting his cheek against hers and so on. What is meant here is touching the skin, not intercourse. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: What is it permissible for a man who is fasting to do with his wife who is fasting?  He replied: A man who is observing an obligatory fast is not perm...

Question I know when getting married a person needs their parents blessing and consent but what if a married couple are separated and are considering returning to each other, do they still need their parents blessing all over again? Answer Praise be to Allaah. If a man divorces his wife and this is the first or second talaaq and she has not ended her ‘iddah (by giving birth if she is pregnant or by the passage of three menstrual cycles), then he can take his wife back by saying, “I am taking you back” or “I am keeping you.” Then his taking her back is valid. Or he may do some action intending thereby to take her back, such as having intercourse with the intention of taking her back. The Sunnah is to have two witnesses to the fact that he has taken her back, so that two witnesses testify to that, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Then when they are about to attain their term appointed, either take them back in a good manner or part with them in a good ...